So while I started this blog to be a fitness/nutrition blog I'm finding that my posts center around body image and self esteem. But for me those things strongly influence my diet and workouts and not in a positive way. I am trying very hard to change my frame of mind and writing this blog is really helping me with that.
I snuck away to the movies today to see the new comedy "The DUFF." It looked funny and I love Mae Whitman. It's about a girl named Bianca who finds out that she is the DUFF (Designated Ugly Fat Friend) in her trio of friends. Bianca makes it her goal to shed this label and get the guy she's crushing on. I'll admit that while this was a comedy I teared up a few times and not from laughing too hard. This isn't the first time a comedy has made me cry, I am just a very sensitive soul and certain things strike right to my heart.
The movie made me think about a lot. First how thankful I am that cell phones and the internet did not exist when I was in high school. I was bullied enough as it was. But also how terrible labels can be. And there seem to be labels everywhere we look. Even as adults we still feel the need to label everyone. You see a person who has a lot of tattoos and think "criminal," an overweight person is "lazy." And it's not just how we label others. Sometimes the labels we give ourselves can be more harmful than the ones someone else gives us. These negative labels, whether self inflicted or not, can do so much damage. They effect us on so many levels. I've always labelled myself as being lonely. Because of this label I have made some very questionable choices when it comes to relationships. I will think a guy is flirting or interested just because they are nice to me. Then after finding out they weren't interested instead of moving on I would take it personally, too personally. This of course would cause me to turn to food, self medicate. Which would send me to the gym to not only work off the food but also to make me pretty. Also in some ways those workouts can be to punish myself. It's a vicious circle that one word started. So what do we do?!?
In my opinion I don't think we will ever be able to get rid of labels. And not all labels are bad. I had a lady that takes my class tell me that she has removed all negative labels in her life, for herself and others. I loved this idea! So I propose we start a movement to use positive labels. Instead of thinking of myself as being lonely, I'm loved! Instead of saying you are old, think you are youthful! When you look in the mirror and think, DUFF change that to FUDD (Fun, Unique, Delightful Dreamer). When you see that lady at the store who is suffering from RBF (Resting Bitch Face) smile at her and think "pretty lady." Always try to find that silver lining in everybody, especially yourself!
You are all beautiful people. Stay strong! Stay positive! And love your labels!!
I snuck away to the movies today to see the new comedy "The DUFF." It looked funny and I love Mae Whitman. It's about a girl named Bianca who finds out that she is the DUFF (Designated Ugly Fat Friend) in her trio of friends. Bianca makes it her goal to shed this label and get the guy she's crushing on. I'll admit that while this was a comedy I teared up a few times and not from laughing too hard. This isn't the first time a comedy has made me cry, I am just a very sensitive soul and certain things strike right to my heart.
The movie made me think about a lot. First how thankful I am that cell phones and the internet did not exist when I was in high school. I was bullied enough as it was. But also how terrible labels can be. And there seem to be labels everywhere we look. Even as adults we still feel the need to label everyone. You see a person who has a lot of tattoos and think "criminal," an overweight person is "lazy." And it's not just how we label others. Sometimes the labels we give ourselves can be more harmful than the ones someone else gives us. These negative labels, whether self inflicted or not, can do so much damage. They effect us on so many levels. I've always labelled myself as being lonely. Because of this label I have made some very questionable choices when it comes to relationships. I will think a guy is flirting or interested just because they are nice to me. Then after finding out they weren't interested instead of moving on I would take it personally, too personally. This of course would cause me to turn to food, self medicate. Which would send me to the gym to not only work off the food but also to make me pretty. Also in some ways those workouts can be to punish myself. It's a vicious circle that one word started. So what do we do?!?
In my opinion I don't think we will ever be able to get rid of labels. And not all labels are bad. I had a lady that takes my class tell me that she has removed all negative labels in her life, for herself and others. I loved this idea! So I propose we start a movement to use positive labels. Instead of thinking of myself as being lonely, I'm loved! Instead of saying you are old, think you are youthful! When you look in the mirror and think, DUFF change that to FUDD (Fun, Unique, Delightful Dreamer). When you see that lady at the store who is suffering from RBF (Resting Bitch Face) smile at her and think "pretty lady." Always try to find that silver lining in everybody, especially yourself!
You are all beautiful people. Stay strong! Stay positive! And love your labels!!